Thursday, September 10, 2009

No Coincidence

About six years ago I was in the kitchen one evening cleaning up from supper when the phone rang. When I answered a man on the other end asked for me, I replied, and then he said very excitedly "It's your brother, Blaine!" I immediately thought somebody was trying to play a joke on me (first and foremost on my list was of course my real brother John). I vaguely remember laughing and calling him "Sonny Boy" (John's nickname), but the further the conversation went the more it became clear to me that this guy 1)wasn't playing a joke and 2)really believed I was his sister...his long lost sister whose name in fact is also my own, Kelly Sutton. It took me about 20 minutes to convince him that I really was not the Kelly Sutton he was looking for, while he asked over and over "Are you sure?" By the time our conversation ended I wanted to be able to say "I'll be your sister!" I don't think he was entirely convinced that I wasn't her when we hung up and the sorrow and disappointment in his voice haunted me for months afterwards. I tried every way in the world I could think of to help this man find his sister. I even thought of calling Oprah! (Maybe I should have!) Eventually the phone call was pushed to my long-term memory bank and filed way in the back under a few other things I can no longer recall. About a month ago I logged on to check my email and noticed I had a message on Facebook titled "Set Me Back a Little" from a girl named "Kelly Sutton Baur". It said: "I am trying to find my half brother and when I typed in his name several people came up one of which was you. What set me back a little is my name is Kelly Sutton Baur and my half brothers name is Blaine. Maybe its a sign that I will find him someday. Just wanted to share the name info. Thank you." I was absolutely stunned. Speechless. And the conversation I had with her brother six years ago flooded back to me instantly. And I stood rooted to the square of tile I was standing on with my mouth gaping open. I finally managed to get my wits about me enough to send her a message back telling her about my experience with her brother on the phone, tell her that I thought I remembered that he was somewhere in Illinois, offer my help to find him, and last but clearly not least, let her know that he's looking for her too. What are the odds that they would both contact me in their search for each other? Astronomical? Yes. Coincidental? I don't think so. Just one more evidence that God is so in control, so aware of our every single tiny need. Who knows, maybe I remembered wrong about the state, but I know for certain the sorrow in his voice at not finding her, and the realness of the reassurance I was able to give her that he's looking for her too. I received a message back from her a few days later saying that my response had given her new hope and encouragement, and quite a few tears as well. To say that I've been touched by this experience is an understatement. All I know is that I hope with all of my heart that this long lost brother and sister find each other! Kelly consented to let me tell her story on this blog in hopes that someone out there might know how to help. Anybody have Oprah's cell on speed dial or has access to that kind of info?